I know this is an irrational fear of yours, so logic might not help. I don't know if I'm attracted to the same sex or not, but it feels like it's real every time i see a good looking guy. The mind plays tricks on you but your body doesn’t. Maybe the false attraction or whatever it is is just a self fulfilling prophecy? I guess that's why this all bothers me so much. And after I'm done with straight porn, I feel straight mostly. 1) This pertains only to looks. Once you gain control, the emotion starts to fade. I'd rather be Asexual than be gay. Basically ocd makes your mind doubt so much that you get confused whether you are actually having sexual urges of homosexual in nature or you are just doubting on yourself so much that you are believing that you have those urges. As far as I can recollect, I don't think I've had attractions towards guys. The more you try to understand it and dissect it, the more confusing and anxiety-inducing it becomes. But I don't feel any attraction towards the performer's looks (I think), it's mostly anxiety about my groin. False memories are quite common when OCD gets bad. It feels genuine. How can you tell if you're having false attractions or not? I did have a lot of female crushes and fantasies. And OCD is only one thing : irrational fear. In the moment it can be entirely impossible to tell whether or not it’s real. Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. HOCD, at it's very core, is OCD, just latched on to a particular thought, in this case, being gay/straight. calling jesse hocd calling jesse nofap FALSE ATTRACTION LOW LIBIDO. Bisexuals with HOCD have the false fear that they are attracted to only one sex, usually the one they are not currently involved with. If you have never really thought about the OCD part of HOCD, it’s something you should learn more about, as that’s the part of your thought processes that you can learn to have control over. OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is a psychological condition that hijacks the brain, forcing us to think unwanted, 'obsessive' thoughts and perform behaviors to reduce anxiety associated with these thoughts called 'compulsions.' Typically, those who suffer from OCD false memory would get an intrusive thought that they have done something bad at a specified time and place, where they are not able to tell the difference whether it is intrusive or an actual memory. HOCD and false attractions!!!!! They create a nagging doubt in your mind. A lot of people with ocd tend to ask themselves if they liked something and compulsively check their response. It feels like i'm attracted to guys, but i don't want to. His feelings may be a false attraction created by and fueled by his OCD, and that, too, is absolutely OK. ? These facts alone should help straight HOCD folks to see that they are indeed straight. 2) I've watched gay porn. The obsessive thoughts are unpredictable and provoke extreme anxiety that leads us to believe we'll never have control of our thoughts. Since u know it’s just hocd then u r less anxious about being gay cause it’s less probable, this happened to me and I didn’t have thoughts for two weeks but it came back, but I’m trying to recover. Though details of the false memory will be very fuzzy at the initial stage, sufferers tend to ruminate excessively over the thought, which can cause more details being added, making the t… It is the same mechanism. Weirdly, now I freak out a little sometimes, after I notice myself noticing an attractive female. I don't get any sexualised thoughts unless I determinedly hunt for them. WPN Hi everyone....I've been suffering with hocd for 3 years now.I've had practically every symptom from groinal responses to fake urges(in my opinion the worst one)but I'm slowly on the path to recovery but I still get attraction which is annoying me to no end can someone please elaborate on what it is???? If I had a crush, I'd be nervous but still want to look at her. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I don't suffer from groinal responses a lot, btw. That for me, is the biggest difficulty. When I try and imagine the past, I feel there must have been some attraction, even though I had no crushes/fantasies on guys that I can remember of. I used to get a lot of anxiety over it, now not so much (after i realized that having anxiety means it's hocd, anxiety kinda dropped which worries me). While OLD is gaining more attention, it’s relatively rare. I don’t know what a “false attraction” is in clinical terms. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is a condition marked by a pattern of unwanted, intrusive thoughts, feelings, images, sensations, or urges that take the form of a Feared Story. HOCD (Homosexual OCD) is ostensibly a variant of OCD in which the sufferer obsesses about being gay. Homosexual OCD, Sexual Orientation OCD, Gay OCD, or more commonly HOCD, is an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) subtype centered around persistent doubt and fear about the sufferer’s sexual orientation. Having less anxiety is a good thing, think of it in a positive way. TLDR: How can you tell if false attractions are real or not? When it comes to guys, I don't know if denial is causing me to freak out or if it's OCD. This is totally screwing me over. In this video I address a subtype of OCD, POCD. Attraction for women is really faint, although it has gotten better recently. As a disclaimer: This video does not address actual pedophiles or condone pedophilia in any way. I have dealt with a number of people who were going round and round about false memories. Feelings of attraction or what some in the community call 'False Attraction' commonly happen, as do physical feelings of arousal. False attraction can be so frustrating, because it really can feel so real. HOCD, or Homosexual OCD, is a common subtype of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder focused on themes of sexual orientation and sexual attraction. My issues started in June. The thoughts are like I'm convinced of it. But logically speaking, gay people encompass less than 10 percent of the population. OCD is the doubt disease and it will do everything within his power to latch onto your fears and doubts to trigger panic on the deepest level. Your body went into chaos when you began to doubt yourself. I do have thoughts though, but not of maybe I'm gay. For me, questioning why I found BTS attractive plus these physical reactions triggered everything. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I firmly believe we all use LoA, of sorts, throughout our lives, whether we know it or not. It isn't as arousing like straight porn most times, and it's something I try to avoid unless in extreme doubt. God, I just want to be straight. It’s estimated that less than 0.1 percent of people have the disorder.. I’ve definitely been there! 3) When I see attractive girls, I remember having calm reactions. Almost immediately, they would start questioning whether what came to their mind is true or not. It' annoying me, I don't want to be gay. While this disorder is generally referred to as “HOCD”, it does not always pertain to specifically “homosexual” themes, but can also include fears of bi-sexuality, pan-sexuality, and even fears of heterosexuality. Because this feeling you describe, of your mind unconsciously making you feel less attracted to girls/more focused on their flaws, is a classic sign of OCD or OCD like obsessions. I just don’t understand why sometimes it feels like I enjoy the thoughts and sometimes it doesn’t. Homosexual OCD – HOCD Treatment. Homosexual OCD can be debilitating to one’s life. Many people report the same fear coming on with intrusive thoughts or obsessions. If you can tell, how do you deal with them? variant of Pure Obsessional OCD (Pure O). This all comes down to focusing so much on the thoughts, looking for anything that could be seen as attractive, comparing anything to seek proof these thoughts are true. This could be to something they see as gay or any other thing they fear (harm ocd sufferers often refer to debating if … However this plays out for him, he is who he is and there’s nothing wrong with that. Law of Attraction is a metaphysical belief that through energized, positive thinking, imagery a person can, as they like, focus on a goal, ambition or outcome. Does someone relate to this or knoe what's going on? And I'm honestly doubting if this is OCD (this is genuine, but I read somewhere on a forum that doubting OCD is OCD itself, so dunno if I'm using this doubt as a shield to deny bisexuality). I know I’m not attracted to children in real life, but my thoughts are so vivid and even just the thought of a cute child makes me anxious as hell and I feel like im attracted as if i was a 12 year old with a crush again but not sexual attraction. But now I feel like I'm actually attracted to guys. Initially I focussed only on the physiological aspect: chest tightening, breath slowing. I've had hocd for a few months now, the thoughts aren't as frequent as they used to but now instead of "maybe I'm gay" it's like sometimes I'm certain of it. You have to try and not let it bother you. However, some people with OCD do come out as gay and enter into gay relationships, even when they report they are more attracted to the opposite sex. This means no more ruminating, no second thoughts about stuff, just let the thoughts pass and your false attraction will pass with time and effort put in. Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (HOCD) is categorized by intrusive thoughts revolving around one’s sexual orientation.People with HOCD suffer through uncontrollable and unwanted intrusive thoughts and images that leave them in a state of fear and anxiety about whether they are truly straight. How do you deal with them. I don't know what to do. No, HOCD does not bring on attractions. I fear being bi. —HOCD is a subtype of OCD, affecting individuals that continuously doubt their sexual orien—nah. I know I wasn't gay all my life, i was always really into women. HOCD is an illness, and who but a gay HOCD sufferer would … In Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Pure Obsessional OCD (Pure O) HOCD is a misunderstood and under-recognized. This sub is for anyone with OCD who have sexual orientation or gender related obsessions including HOCD, TOCD, and Sexual Orientation OCD. What i'm afraid of is that i've convi ced myself of it. They are not an extremely common symptom, but you do see them sometimes when the illness is bad. Panic attacks, anxiety, nausea pain in the chest etc. This means it’s quite likely you are not gay, statistically speaking. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. What worries me is the false attraction, i keep getting nervous next to guys I know are good looking, i feel urges to look at crotches, i don't know. It’s the nature of obsessions and compulsions. OCD appears to be a mental/emotional disorder which could affect the outcome of any endeavor. I made a similar post yesterday, but i didn't really get any answers, so here i go again. Its not that. 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